During a great number of new client consultations throughout this year, it has been significant to notice the speed and frequency at which key building blocks in people’s lives have been dramatically shifting. Examples like relationship breakdowns, medical crisis issues (particularly cancer diagnosis), job loss and business upheaval, have crossed our desk with increasing frequency all year. Naturally the personal shock and emotional drain for each client can be intense.
Fortunately a growing part of our work that has a positive impact on recovery revolves around being able coach clients on the process of healthily “Letting Go” and in so doing opening up to the possibility of learning and growing through the furnace of adversity.
Some high profile examples of the mindset shift that can be cultivated through our “ Letting Go “approach can be captured in the following three quotes :
"It is fine to celebrate the lessons of success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure" – Bill Gates
"Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success" – Dale Carnegie
"I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been realized. Nevertheless I was still alive, and I still had a daughter who I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the foundation on which I rebuilt my life" – JK Rowling
Please talk to us sooner rather than later if you are recognizing the need to better engage the capacity to Let Go amidst the challenges of life changes and curve balls hurtling your way.
In the meantime please enjoy some bullet point examples below of how the concept can work for you as part of growing through set backs.
- To “let go” does not mean to stop caring; it means I can’t do it for someone else.
- To “let go” is not to cut myself off, it is the realisation I can’t control another.
- To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
- To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another, it is to make the most of myself.
- To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.
If you are finding it difficult to 'let go' call us 07 5527 0123 to arrange an confidential appointment with one of our caring consultants.